Good? Bad?

I bet as a child, what a "good boy" was, was never adequately explained to
you. Now, if you're a girl, I'm sure you suffered the same fate.

Let us start with a couple definitions.

“Good” should be defined as doing things that increase survival for self,
family and beyond.

In a moment of upset, mom says “why don't you be a good little boy.” What
mom did not look at was you were being a good little boy as best as you knew
how. That is true regardless of how “bad” you were being from the viewpoint
of others.

“Bad” should be defined as doing things which damage survival more than it
helps broadly.

As I observe my grandchildren and my children, I am proud at how well they
handle things.

Perhaps, they learned how to be good and not to be too bad.


What Is a Good Child?

Is a good child one that never runs in the house?

Is a good child someone who is quiet?

Is a good child one that never gets dirty?

What does a young child think? You might ask him or her!


Let us Turn it Around!

Is a child that runs in the house bad?

Is a child that tries to communicate bad?

Have you every seen a child that didn't get dirty? So are all children bad
because they get dirty?


YOUR Horrible Situation as A Child.

There you were doing the best you could. You were given the task of learning
how to live amongst other children. You were told to go outside and play and
expected to come back in “CLEAN”!

Was it forbidden for you make noises, move fast or disagree because YOU
DIDN'T UNDERSTAND?

Or you were just so hungry and tired, you were terrorized?


Why Children Do Not Cooperate

The baby in your arms smiles, coos, and will do anything to entertain you!
They adore you!

What happened? Now they don't seem to listen to you at all!

I have found that children don't cooperate for only two reasons.

Very often, the child is tired, hungry, ill or otherwise upset. In those
conditions, they can not cooperate.  They need food and or sleep. Feed them
and put them to bed. This is especially true of very young children.

The next big reason is the child DOES NOT UNDERSTAND!

A child is trying to survive. They must be allowed to make decisions and even
mistakes.

Ordering a child about, intimidating them into slavish obedience will
guarantee a revolting child!

Of course if the child is about to run into the street, stop them. That's not the
time to allow them to make a mistake.

If the child doesn't understand why they can't watch TV all night long with you,
a bit of gentle explanation is required. Perhaps it's a good time to set a good
example, turning off the TV and get the child asleep.

You can go back after the child is sleeping and turn it on if you must, you are
the adult!

Related article
How to Get Cooperation.


Your Children or Grandchildren

Are you making your child or grandchild wrong for being a child?

How quiet, how still do you want the child, dead? Last I observed that's about
as quiet and still as a body can get!


Do You Feel Your Parents were Perfect?

Who taught you to be a parent? Where did you gain your parenting skills?

I learned much from my parents. I can guarantee you mine were not perfect.

Mom was and is sweet. She had a huge difficulty controlling four children. I'm
afraid we ran over her routinely.

My Dad was sometimes harsh. He favored physical discipline. I'm sure that is
what his dad did. By the way, I never learned anything from being punished.

I did learn by observation made when I was not starving, terrorized and upset!


Punishment produces “bad” children.

Look at our “successful prison system”! It is a complete failure and operates
simply because there is huge profits to be made jailing slave labor.

Related article
How to Correct.


Bad or good?

Your communication with your child or grandchild will be the key to them
being good or bad!

If you leave it up to the child to figure out, that may backfire.

At the same time, do you want to make the same mistakes made on your child
that your parents made on you?

Take a look. Perhaps you don't need to change anything.

I have found that more communication is always better. Always better!

I have found that using the force my dad did is counter productive. It doesn't
get a good boy merely a revolting boy!

I changed things and have an excellent communication level with my children
and grandchildren!


Help or Assistance

I am a trained Youth Specialist. I spent eleven years handling troubled
parents and the resulting troubled children.

I spoke to a young man recently that I expelled from school. He told me I was
the best at handling him. He said he considered that I was a friend. And
indeed, I am.

Let me know if you, you poor beat up parent/grandparent need a bit of
assistance!

Relate articles:
Image, What is It?
Listen and Guide, Someone To.

The Way To Happiness.

I use The Way To Happiness as a moral guide in my day to day life. It is not a religious text. The
people I know that have read it, all agree with its precepts.

You might give it a try. You can watch the
videos on my site about them or go to their site. They
are very well done.

If you need gentle assistance, contact me. I am trained in resolving conflicts very successfully.

Helping someone spot what condition(s) and what the solutions are to handle them is exactly
what I do in life.

Improving the conditions of others is my destination and purpose in life. A little true knowledge can
go a long way. I do not ask that you believe anything!

Routinely I say #EverythinWill_B_OK!I believe that is true!

Also, “A person is only as valuable as he aids others in their games of survival!”
Quoting myself :-)

Feel Free to Communicate with Me!

I am open to communication. Email me Carl @ carlwattsartist .com (remove spaces. Call me and
leave a message 818_400_2035.

Let me know if there's a subject you need to know more about, a question you'd like expanded on
or anything you'd like to see me write an article about. Happy to do so as I'm always looking for
new ideas. Contact me via the above.

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