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Love is a Decision, Not a Feeling  
By Grant Cardone

Love is not a feeling, love is a decision you make and continue to make in order to create
an experience that is described as love. Love is an action that if you don't use it you lose
it.  Love is like any communication, if you never send it out, you won’t get a return.  Love
is something you give to others not something you feel because something happens to

Most of my life I was under the delusion that love was a feeling, something that was going to happen to me. Love is not something that
happens to you but something that you make happen to you and happen to others. Love is something that grows from your actions and
decisions and if you don’t have it and or not experiencing it then there is something you don’t know about love!  I spent most of my adult
life waiting for love to happen to me and after one failed marriage and endless searching for “the right person” I finally realized the truth
about love, how to have it, how to create it and how to sustain it.

Wikipedia also states love as an experience related to a strong sense of affection. Affection is a "disposition or state of mind or body"
[1] that is often associated with a feeling or type of love. This definition suggests that you do something rather than have something
done to you. How do you feel affection for anything?  You would actually decide to show it love, admire it, pay attention to it, treat it right,
honor it, praise it, and find the good in it. At which point you will then have affection for it.  Mistreat it, lie to it, and ignore it and I assure
you that you will not feel affection for it nor will you ever say you love it.  

Love is a probably the single most universally desired human quality that exist on this planet. Love is not something you can buy or
barter, it is not taught at school, it doesn’t matter how rich you are, your IQ, race, creed, religion, social economic status or who you
know.   So on this Valentine's Day practice making a decision to love and then following that decision up with actions that communicate
love. Remember love is not a feeling; love is a decision!

Happy Valentines Day!

Grant Cardone, Author of "Sell to Survive".      800-368-5771

Cardone Training Technologies, Inc. •6767 Neptune Place • La Jolla, CA 92037
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