How to Correct
I'll give my observations.
It's very difficult to correct someone without making them wrong.
In making people wrong, you put them on the defensive. Often their reaction to correction is not
reasonable at all.
Any criticism normally puts people on the defense and they will often become angry with you. All
criticism is basically a covert attack of something. It may be an attack on your art, your choice of
clothing, etc!
I've found that by asking questions you can get people to look
By asking question and getting the person to look, they will change their minds and their actions!
Often they will immediately see the situation and handle it themselves.
Often they need additional information or correct information.
This data must be delivered as data, not as "see you're wrong"!
If they don't see it, you haven't asked the right question. Or, of course it is possible you're the one
that is wrong! ...Keep asking questions gently until they see your point or just let it go.
You might ask yourself "Is that really important?"
"Will it be important 10 years, 50 years from now?"
If they're raising a gun to their head, knock the crap out of them. It they are exposing too much
cleveage...well you have to decide.
Tolerance for others is often difficult.
I can guarantee, that in their universe, what he or she was doing was exactly what is right based on
all the data they had available to make decisions with at that instant.
In your universe, the data you have, gives you the viewpoint you have. Your data allows you to
meke the decisions and to act as you see correct.
Correction is forcing your viewpoint or opinion on someone else.
Regardless if you are 100 percent correct, you're forcing your viewpoint on them and at the same
time, making less of their ability to look at things and to figure things out! Forcing your viewpoint on
anyone is insulting and degrading. You don't have the right!
My only suggestion is that you ask yourself a few questions before speaking and then refrain from
"telling them" and start "asking them to look"!
Have fun! This works really well!
If you liked this, you might like "How to Get Cooperation"
A related article "Who Has the Right To Insult You?"
Carl Watts
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Edited 11/4/11, 3/18/12
I'll give my observations.
It's very difficult to correct someone without making them wrong.
In making people wrong, you put them on the defensive. Often their reaction to correction is not
reasonable at all.
Any criticism normally puts people on the defense and they will often become angry with you. All
criticism is basically a covert attack of something. It may be an attack on your art, your choice of
clothing, etc!
I've found that by asking questions you can get people to look
By asking question and getting the person to look, they will change their minds and their actions!
Often they will immediately see the situation and handle it themselves.
Often they need additional information or correct information.
This data must be delivered as data, not as "see you're wrong"!
If they don't see it, you haven't asked the right question. Or, of course it is possible you're the one
that is wrong! ...Keep asking questions gently until they see your point or just let it go.
You might ask yourself "Is that really important?"
"Will it be important 10 years, 50 years from now?"
If they're raising a gun to their head, knock the crap out of them. It they are exposing too much
cleveage...well you have to decide.
Tolerance for others is often difficult.
I can guarantee, that in their universe, what he or she was doing was exactly what is right based on
all the data they had available to make decisions with at that instant.
In your universe, the data you have, gives you the viewpoint you have. Your data allows you to
meke the decisions and to act as you see correct.
Correction is forcing your viewpoint or opinion on someone else.
Regardless if you are 100 percent correct, you're forcing your viewpoint on them and at the same
time, making less of their ability to look at things and to figure things out! Forcing your viewpoint on
anyone is insulting and degrading. You don't have the right!
My only suggestion is that you ask yourself a few questions before speaking and then refrain from
"telling them" and start "asking them to look"!
Have fun! This works really well!
If you liked this, you might like "How to Get Cooperation"
A related article "Who Has the Right To Insult You?"
Carl Watts
Contact
Comment On the Times
Updates
Edited 11/4/11, 3/18/12
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