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People Who Want You to Fail (Part One)
Who is Stopping You?
The biggest barrier to a successful career is not a lack of opportunities, the job
market or your city. It's certain people.
Specifically, antisocial people—people who are devious, mean-spirited, cruel,
hostile or negative. People who oppose you, treat you with disrespect and
cause you trouble.
"When we trace the cause of a failing business, we will inevitably
discover somewhere in its ranks the antisocial personality hard at
"It is important then to examine and list the attributes of the antisocial
personality. Influencing as it does the daily lives of so many, it well
behooves* decent people to become better informed on this subject."
-- L. Ron Hubbard (*behooves: to be necessary or proper for)
One of the most famous antisocial personalities was Adolf Hitler. Hitler loved
children and pets. He was a vegetarian who neither smoked nor drank. He
was kind and considerate to the ladies, secretaries and chauffeurs. People
thought Hitler was a nice guy, yet he ordered the deaths of millions.
Most antisocial personalities are not famous. In fact, they are rarely obvious.
Antisocial personalities can be anyone: doctors, lawyers, politicians, business
leaders, police officers, newspaper reporters, employees, men, women, old,
young . . . anyone. They can be family members, spouses and colleagues.
You probably know a few antisocial people.
When antisocial people are openly nasty or critical of you, you know who they
are. They say, "You are a stupid idiot" or "That idea of yours is the worst idea
I've ever heard." They stab you in your chest, not your back.
However, the worst types of antisocial persons are those who hide their true
intentions. They stab you in the back so you can't catch them. They say,
"Everyone thinks your ideas are silly" or "I heard a rumor the police might be
investigating you" or "You look so tired; why don't you take a vacation?"
Antisocials make you ill. For example, you are enjoying your day and getting a
lot done. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, you feel a little upset. Your
stomach and head hurt.
So you review who just talked to you. Mary gave you a report and made a nice
comment about the weather. Fred asked to borrow your pen and was very
polite. The computer guy needed to look at your computer and told you how
everyone hates your new software.
You think, "What was the computer guy talking about? Why did he waste so
much of my time? And why are the computers always having problems? I'd
better watch out for this guy."
Suddenly, you feel better. You have spotted an antisocial person. Your day is
L. Ron Hubbard identified certain characteristics of the antisocial person. The
first way to spot them is to notice how they speak.
"The antisocial personality has the following attributes:
"1. He or she speaks only in very broad generalities. They say . . .'
‘Everybody thinks . . .' ‘Everyone knows . . .' and such expressions are
in continual use, particularly when imparting rumor." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Have you ever been to a meeting when someone said, "We're all having
troubles because of the government," "People don't like anyone who's too
successful" or "Everyone in this area is having a rough time"? These are
Whenever you hear a statement that starts, "Everyone says . . . " or "All the
citizens feel . . . " or "The employees think . . . ," you must perk up your ears.
You have just heard the beginning of a generality.
Now if the generality is a good message, you can relax. "Everyone thinks you
are doing a great job!" "No one was late today." "All the carpenters appreciate
the wood you bought."
However, if the message is negative, the speaker is pointing a knife at you.
"No one believes your little act." "Everyone thinks the pay is too low." "No one
wears their hair like that any more."
One reason the news media is such a bad influence on society is because of
their generalities. Just listen to the news or read a newspaper and you see
generalities. "America was shocked and saddened . . ." "Sources revealed that
. . ." "Critics wonder why . . ."
How to Respond
"When asked, ‘Who is everybody . . .' it normally turns out to be one
source and from this source the antisocial person has manufactured
what he or she pretends is the whole opinion of the whole society." --
L. Ron Hubbard
You: "Nancy, you say everyone thinks I make too much money. Who exactly?"
Nancy: "Oh, uh, well, you know, everyone I talk to. It's common knowledge."
You: "Can you tell me who exactly?"
Nancy: "I don't know, I can't remember. I'll ask around."
You: "Okay, but if no one really said it, you need to stop saying things like that
While the antisocials are tearing down the world, the social personalities are
improving it. Constructive people make life better for those around them.
Fortunately, most people are social personalities.
Social personalities are opposite of the antisocial personality. For example,
they are specific.
"The social personality is specific in relating circumstances. ‘Joe Jones said . .
. ‘ 'The Star Newspaper reported . . . ‘ and gives sources of data where
important or possible.
"He may use the generality of ‘they' or ‘people' but seldom in
connection with attributing statements or opinions of an alarming
nature." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Examples: "Patty and Joan want raises." "Everyone's happy you're back from
vacation." "Steve loved your speech."
Even if the social personality is passing bad news, it is not upsetting. For
example, "Kelly and Roger closed their business so they could help their son
produce documentaries." An anti-social would say, "Everyone's business is
going down the tubes, just like Kelly and Roger's."
Every time you hear a generality regarding bad news this week, reject the
information. Assume the person is either careless or antisocial. Instead, ask
"Who is everybody?" or "Who exactly?"
(Also see Part 2 , Part 3 and Part 4. Part 5.)
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