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"Friendliness"
Carl Watts, NRT Certified, WFG Associate, Nutritionist, Artist, Designer,
Problem Solver, Writer, Publisher
4120 Big Tujunga Canyon Rd.
Tujunga, CA 91042
I've read a few things lately and decided I should write my own viewpoint on how to make those around you better in life,
perhaps a bit more friendly.

You know how good a nice smile make you feel, a few words of praise!

You also know how unpleasant it is to be around two people arguing! It's unpleasant even when you aren't part of it and
just happen to walk into the room.

Most of us want to create good effects and do so routinely. Remembering someone's birthday or "saying thank you"
does this well.

But how many times do we let our temper flare towards another driver? Or perhaps someone slowing the checkout line?
Or someone being loud in the theater or restaurant? The list can go on forever of ways others upset us!

Here's where I want to make my point.

I am sure you have at times noticed when someone had their attention on you. Others definitely can feel your attention
the same way.

So when we go into a rage, it makes others feel bad!

I've had several other drivers just pull over to the side of the road to let me pass. I know this was the case as they pulled
back out immediately when it was safe to do so. My upset scared them out of the way.

Last year, I was driving down the street in Studio City, CA, beside my son. He was in his truck and I was in my car. I
noticed a slow moving vehicle in front of my son’s truck.

I told my passenger, that my son was getting upset at the slow moving driver in front of him, that I could feel it.

Within seconds, the slow moving driver pulled to the curb. I told my passenger, "Watch that car, my son just made them
get out of the way." He watched and saw that after my son and one other vehicle passed, the slow moving driver
promptly pulled back into traffic.

This is not the way I want to create effects on others.

So I have developed a couple rules I try to causatively do all the time.

First, I cheerfully greet everyone I am close enough to greet. I haven't worked up to greeting everyone in a line but there's
no reason not to do this!

The second thing is that rather than get upset, I send positive thoughts towards other drivers, people across the room
and to every person in the room.

When another driver is going to slow, I just send the thought to them to speed up. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they
don't but at least I'm not dropping to anger or rage.

It actually makes me feel more at cause to be positive and I am sure it is creating, to some degree, good effects on others.

Now you may not feel you can do this, but I guarantee you can!

I challenge you to do this once. Just greet someone on the sidewalk with a cheerful tone! Wish people a happy New Year!

Tell people on your e-mails to have a Great Day! And you mean it when you say it or write it or even just think it.

I'd be pleased to hear back from you on how this goes.