First, let me give a brief history of myself.
In 1974, I married Emily LaVonne Watts. We remained husband and wife until her body
would no longer function and she left it.
We had a very successful marriage. I helped her raise our five children who are all
awesome and happy in life! No criminals, no druggies, etc, just very successful ethical
children!
There were a couple successful actions in that marriage: First, make a commitment.
You must be willing to make it go right despite hell and high water (difficulties)! If you're
not, then why start?
Next, is stay in good communication. A marriage is a created relationship. It takes a lot of good
honest communication to make it work. It's not difficult but no one can say it is easy either. But I
can guarantee that if you cease communicating, cease being honest, the marriage will not be
happy. Marriage should be a happy relationship!
Once LaVonne left her body, after 33 years together, I found myself without a partner, best friend, lover and just an incredible source
of love and company.
After a while, I decided I was healthy and very active and I should handle being without a wife.
I started looking but all my friends were married with children, just like I was.
Now I am not telling you to do what I did, but I considered, how do I get in communication with a lot of potential ladies? The bars just
didn't seem to be the answer and I really didn't have a lot of other sources.
So I went to the Affinity Exchange where there are many ladies of my religion. I am an active Scientologist and have been for 35
years.
I wrote up a descriptive picture, a list of qualities of an ideal spouse for myself, a list of wanted and not wanted qualities. (I
later found out that Mary had made the same type list.)
Then I set out to find that Ideal Lady. I sent out hundreds of communications. I talked to dozens of ladies.
I was looking for someone with courage. That meant they must be willing to communicate and not be so cautious that they appeared
to be afraid or hiding.
I wanted to someone who was a Scientologist or at least very willing to find out about Scientology.
I wanted someone who would not be a financial burden, not be ill, not have huge family problems.
There were other factors as I was a bit picky!
It didn't take long to find this lady.
When I met Mary, I used all my communication skills to establish and maintain a very strong communication between us.
Strong enough that we developed a lot of affinity, liking, and basically love for each other.
I was very determined to make this go right as I knew I could and Mary was more Ideal than I had any right to expect. I doubt that if I
had searched for another 10 years that I could have done as well. She is just perfect for me!
I found that we had a lot of agreement and reality.
I didn't delay but asked her to marry me the first week. Why not?
It took a little more communication but she agreed and we decided to be husband and wife about 6/4/07.
Later on 9/7/07, we were officially married! This has been a most successful action on my part. See wedding picture! Mary
and I are happy and there is no reason this will not continue indefinitely! We have not had a cross word pass between us since we
met! Still true, 12/3/08, 2/7/09, 2/12/10!
We were both studying the Basic Books and Lectures of our religion, Scientology! (6/19/10 I've completed the basics materials. I
am currently restudying some of the basics and also will studying more advanced materials!)
This helps us keep our reality very similar and keeps us up tone and happy! I can not recommend highly enough the action of
studying Scientology and doing it together with your spouse is even better!
This is true.
Happy Husband,
Carl
Contact me
In 1974, I married Emily LaVonne Watts. We remained husband and wife until her body
would no longer function and she left it.
We had a very successful marriage. I helped her raise our five children who are all
awesome and happy in life! No criminals, no druggies, etc, just very successful ethical
children!
There were a couple successful actions in that marriage: First, make a commitment.
You must be willing to make it go right despite hell and high water (difficulties)! If you're
not, then why start?
Next, is stay in good communication. A marriage is a created relationship. It takes a lot of good
honest communication to make it work. It's not difficult but no one can say it is easy either. But I
can guarantee that if you cease communicating, cease being honest, the marriage will not be
happy. Marriage should be a happy relationship!
Once LaVonne left her body, after 33 years together, I found myself without a partner, best friend, lover and just an incredible source
of love and company.
After a while, I decided I was healthy and very active and I should handle being without a wife.
I started looking but all my friends were married with children, just like I was.
Now I am not telling you to do what I did, but I considered, how do I get in communication with a lot of potential ladies? The bars just
didn't seem to be the answer and I really didn't have a lot of other sources.
So I went to the Affinity Exchange where there are many ladies of my religion. I am an active Scientologist and have been for 35
years.
I wrote up a descriptive picture, a list of qualities of an ideal spouse for myself, a list of wanted and not wanted qualities. (I
later found out that Mary had made the same type list.)
Then I set out to find that Ideal Lady. I sent out hundreds of communications. I talked to dozens of ladies.
I was looking for someone with courage. That meant they must be willing to communicate and not be so cautious that they appeared
to be afraid or hiding.
I wanted to someone who was a Scientologist or at least very willing to find out about Scientology.
I wanted someone who would not be a financial burden, not be ill, not have huge family problems.
There were other factors as I was a bit picky!
It didn't take long to find this lady.
When I met Mary, I used all my communication skills to establish and maintain a very strong communication between us.
Strong enough that we developed a lot of affinity, liking, and basically love for each other.
I was very determined to make this go right as I knew I could and Mary was more Ideal than I had any right to expect. I doubt that if I
had searched for another 10 years that I could have done as well. She is just perfect for me!
I found that we had a lot of agreement and reality.
I didn't delay but asked her to marry me the first week. Why not?
It took a little more communication but she agreed and we decided to be husband and wife about 6/4/07.
Later on 9/7/07, we were officially married! This has been a most successful action on my part. See wedding picture! Mary
and I are happy and there is no reason this will not continue indefinitely! We have not had a cross word pass between us since we
met! Still true, 12/3/08, 2/7/09, 2/12/10!
We were both studying the Basic Books and Lectures of our religion, Scientology! (6/19/10 I've completed the basics materials. I
am currently restudying some of the basics and also will studying more advanced materials!)
This helps us keep our reality very similar and keeps us up tone and happy! I can not recommend highly enough the action of
studying Scientology and doing it together with your spouse is even better!
This is true.
Happy Husband,
Carl
Contact me
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